Pt. 5 - Hindrances to Becoming a God Seeker
- Maria
- Jul 19, 2025
- 4 min read
What’s Holding You Back from Becoming a God-Seeker?
Have you ever sat down to seek God, only to realize you’re suddenly very interested in reorganizing your pantry or Googling “how to keep succulents alive”? Or maybe you’ve thought, Why even bother? God’s probably too busy running the universe to deal with me anyway.
Welcome to the hilarious (and humbling) reality of being human. As much as we say we want to be God-seekers, the road to truly knowing Him is often filled with hurdles—some of which we put there ourselves. For me, one of the biggest hindrances has been my perspective of God, shaped by my relationship with my earthly father.
Seeing God Through a Tainted Lens
Let me be honest: my dad was not the warm, fuzzy type. He was moody, unreliable, and inconsistent. One day he’d smile, and the next, he’d yell or mock me. I learned quickly not to trust him—or anyone else for that matter. If he made a promise, I’d quietly make my own backup plan because chances were, he wouldn’t follow through.
Without realizing it, I carried those wounds into my relationship with God. When people said, “God is your Heavenly Father,” my heart whispered, “Oh great, another one who’ll forget to pick me up after school.”
When Distrust Becomes a Defense Mechanism
Fast forward 30 years, and I’m still grappling with trusting God fully. It’s not that I don’t want to—I do! But my knee-jerk reaction when life gets hard is, “I’ll take care of it myself, thanks.” I convince myself that if I don’t rely on anyone, I can’t get hurt. But that self-reliance has been the very thing keeping me from becoming a true God-seeker.
You see, seeking God requires trust. Not the “let me test the waters” kind of trust, but real, raw, jump-in-with-both-feet trust. And if I’m being completely honest, there’s a part of me that fears God will let me down, just like others have.
Breaking Free from False Beliefs
I’ve come to realize that a huge part of seeking God is unlearning the lies we’ve believed about Him. For years, I accepted snippets like:
“Be careful what you ask for; God might give it to you!”
“God will isolate you to test your faith.”
“You’ll have to sacrifice everything you love to prove your worth.”
Those ideas kept me tied up in fear, doubting God’s goodness and questioning His love. But here’s the truth: God’s character isn’t defined by our experiences or the people who’ve hurt us. He isn’t moody or unreliable. He’s steady, faithful, and unchanging.
What If We Believed?
When my kids were little, we used to play a game called “What If.” It went something like this:
What if you could fly?
What if chocolate was a vegetable?
But what if we applied that game to our faith?
What if you believed that God’s promises are true?
What if you believed that He adores you and longs to spend time with you?
What if you believed He has plans to prosper you, not harm you?
What if you believed He sees you as perfect, even with all your quirks and scars?
How would that change the way you live? How would it transform the way you see yourself, others, and the world around you?
The Hindrances We Hold On To
Many of the roadblocks to seeking God are ones we unknowingly cling to:
Fear of Rejection: We project our past hurts onto God, assuming He’ll treat us the same way others have.
Control Issues: We’re scared to let go because we’re afraid God won’t come through.
False Beliefs: We’ve absorbed lies about God’s character, making Him out to be distant, harsh, or demanding.
Self-Reliance: We’ve convinced ourselves we don’t need help—even from the Creator of the universe.
These hindrances don’t just block us from seeking God—they block us from experiencing the fullness of His love.
So, What’s the Answer?
To become a true God-seeker, we need to start by getting to know the One we’re seeking. Spend time in His Word, not just to check a box, but to understand His heart. Surround yourself with people who reflect His love. And most importantly, allow Him to dismantle the false beliefs and fears that are holding you back.
A Final “What If”
What if you believed that God truly loves you? What if you let down your defenses and let Him in? What if you sought Him with your whole heart, no longer holding back?
You might just find yourself sitting at His feet, basking in a love so pure and unconditional that it changes everything.
So today, I’m choosing to lean in—hesitations, doubts, and all. Will you join me? After all, what if He really is everything He says He is?
So today, take a small step toward Him. Open your Bible, whisper a prayer, or simply sit quietly and ask Him to reveal His heart to you. Trust doesn’t happen overnight, but every moment spent seeking Him is a step closer to knowing the One who already knows and loves you completely.
What’s one thing you can do today to move closer to Him? Leave a comment or send a message—I’d love to hear how you’re choosing to trust Him, one step at a time. Let’s walk this journey together!
In faith and friendship,
Maria
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